Turning Relationship Woes into Successes


Enjoying each other

Learning to handle difficult relationships in a healthy manner is a challenge, isn’t it! We are unique, complex, opinionated, hurt, motivated and depressed, along with a million other things that can be named, but you get the picture. How do we handle the one person who frustrates and irritates us to no end?

The first place I start is to understand their personality. My favorite personality chart is the color chart. It’s simple, easy to follow, fun and relatively easy to remember. Below is a chart closest to the one I learned. I had to change some things around, so if you should visit the URL, you won’t find it exactly the same.

Color Personality chart compliments of http://www.docstoc.com/docs/409272/Personality-Colour-Chart


NURTURER BLUE

  • Sensitive To Needs Of Others.
  • Sincere. Expresses Appreciation.
  • Cooperative. Collaborative. Creative.
  • Caring. Team Builder And Player.
  • People Person. Engages Others.
  • Artistic. Inspirational. Spiritual.
  • Inclusive. Mediator. Peacemaker.
  • Idealistic. Intuitive. Romantic. Loyal.
  • Seeks Unity And Harmony. Caretaker.
  • Weaknesses: Over-sensitive, followers, not goal oriented
  • Dress: Casual, comfortable
  • Strengths: Dependable, team player, patient, supportive, nurturing
  • Dislikes: Pushy ppl, bullies, conflict
  • Key words: Team, together, relationship, family

ADVENTUROUS ORANGE

  • “Just Do It” Action Oriented.
  • Quick-witted, Charming, Spontaneous
  • Playful. Injects fun into work.
  • Lives In Here & Now. Risk taker. Creative.
  • Enjoys Diversity, Variety, and Competition.
  • Multi-tasker, Cheerful, Energetic. Bold.
  • Quick Thinking and Acting. Takes Charge.
  • High Visibility Performer. Accepts Challenges.
  • Enjoys Problem Solving. Negotiator.
  • Performs Well Under Pressure. Resilient.
  • Voice: Loud and fast
  • Dress: Stylish, flamboyant, colorful
  • Strengths: Promoters, convincing, enthusiastic, positive, high energy
  • Weaknesses: Talk to much, poor follow-up, unorganized, exaggerate
  • Key words: FUN, excitement, freedom, lifestyle
  • Dislikes: Not having fun, facts and figures, bored

TRADITIONAL GOLD

  • Respects Authority Rules, Routines, Policies.
  • Faithful, Dependable, Prepared, Efficient.
  • Remembers The Traditions That Work. Values Family.
  • Work Comes Before Play. Practical. Systematic. Orderly.
  • Identifies With Groups. Strives For A Sense Of Security.
  • Thorough, Sensible, Conventional, Proper.
  • A Right Way To Do Everything. Stick-To-Itivness.
  • Evaluates Actions As Right Or Wrong.
  • Stable. Organized. Punctual. Helpful.
  • Voice: Soft and polite
  • Dress: Formal and conservative
  • Strengths: Organized, planners, accurate, persistant, great follow through
  • Weaknesses: Over-analytical, hard to please, depressed, lonely
  • Key words: Why, graphs, charts, research, exactly
  • Dislikes: Pushy people, no facts, being late, lazy people

VISIONARY GREEN

  • Looks Forward And Sees Impact Of Actions Taken Now.
  • Explores All Facets Before Deciding. Checks for Accuracy.
  • Careful Planner. Systemataic. Enlivened By Work.
  • Status Quo Buster. Designer Of Change. Inventive.
  • Systematic. Logical. Theoretical. Self-Sufficient.
  • Often Not In The Mainstream. Persistent. Thorough.
  • Intellectual. Inquisitive. Impartial. Improvement Oriented.
  • Voice: Soft and gentle
  • Dress: Formal, comfortable
  • Strengths: Dependable, team player, patient, supportive and nurturing
  • Weaknesses: Over-sensitive, followers, not goal oriented
  • Key Words: Team, together, relationships, family
  • Dislikes: Pushy people, bullies, conflict

Do you see yourself in this chart? You may be more than one color. I am Blue with my secondary color being Orange. I also have had outside influences which have left me with some characteristics of Green; although Green is not the color personality I was born with.

My husband is a Green with his secondary being Orange. Part of the Orange in my husband I can relate to is “Multi-tasker and risk taking”. I’m great at multi-tasking but I also take risks. It’s why at the age of 40 I got my motorcycle license and rode a motorcycle for the first time in my life. But as far as the Green in him, I have to go strictly by the chart to understand his thinking style. Understanding his Green has helped me to relate to his way of doing things… for instance, Greens really dislike conflict, meaning every time I wanted to discuss something – it was considered conflict, arguing and he would shut down. When I finally understood this, I was able to talk to him about how to discuss these kinds of matters without leaving a bitter distaste in either of our mouths, bringing about resolution as the outcome. It’s really cool! I use this same method for my children, my friends, those I coach… matter of fact, I teach these techniques to those I coach. It helps them understand themselves as well as others. It’s an empowering tool that will last the rest of their lives.

Second thing I consider is to understand any other influences. Circumstances, health issues, concerns, addictions and so on. Understanding one’s personality is a great place to start, but not the only thing to take into consideration. For instance, if someone just lost a relationship, they are not going to act their everyday normal self, maybe moody and depressed. If a women has started her period, if someone is diabetic or has the flu… maybe they are facing foreclosure.. All of these things can add something more to someone’s personality and if you know what to look for, you can see these changes as being momentary rather than whom they are! I hope my tips help to get you onto the right track to relationship success, as there is so much more to learn, but hey, it’s a great start!

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About Veronica Schultz aka The Soul Whisperer

Veronica Schultz is The Soul Whisperer. Her career spans over 25+ years as Entrepreneur, Reverend, Ministerial Counselor, Mentor, Life and Breakthrough Coach, Author, Teacher, Herbalist and Holistic Health Practitioner. Veronica’s journey of personal transformation started at the very early age of 4 with her first vision. This called her to discover her connection to the human spirit, the body’s dynamic energy system, and how it connects with our behavior, health, spiritual truths and intuitive insights. With this revelation, she stepped into her calling as The Soul Whisperer, a coach for very unique souls. These unique souls function well in life but often feel separate from others. They lean heavily towards holistic healing, love, intuition, warmth, the inner self, and spirit and how they all connect with the world around them. They are connectors and transformers – people with a vision. They have unique gifts and may not understand how to bring their value to the world. As The Soul Whisperer, she offers a fresh outlook on how to break free from the bonds of inner struggles that hinder this unique gifting. Her guidance in discovering their inner connection is invaluable. She knows how to make what seems complex look simple and doable. Countless times she has helped individuals connect with their identity. Identity is a vital part of one’s life because any spiritual disconnection can lead to the manifestation of physical illness. Her words of love, inspiration, and encouragement combined with her prayers and affirmations build a foundation of worth that will never be erased. She is a blessing and an angel. She has experienced emotional and spiritual burdens that only one can imagine and thus understands compassion. She is truly the SOUL Whisperer!
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One Response to Turning Relationship Woes into Successes

  1. Jeannette says:

    Hi again Veronica,
    This new post was quite fun…..I think because I am 63 at this point in life Ive got alittle rainbow going….good,bad,warts and all…..I have a blue kitchen and my walls are painted blue,baby blue,my floor is navy blue ceremic tile,large area,I have eggplant color carpet,soft blue’s pink’s and purple and my bedroom is purple and gold…we are children of the King,so purple and gold are the color’s of our royal position in Him.
    Maranatha,Jeannette

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